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Melissa Norbeck
Posted by Melissa Norbeck
I just don’t get it! You think things are going pretty well with a guy, and you think it may actually have the potential to turn into something, but no, he just stops calling. What makes a guy decide not to call or come around anymore? What turns men off? Is it a girl who gets too drunk, a girl who does drugs, a girl who has kids, a girl who talks about an ex, or maybe a girl who’s too clingy? Really, I’d like to know.
I consider myself pretty picky when it comes to men. However, I’m not saying I always make the right choices; I definitely picked some bad ones. Actually, I don’t think I’ve ever picked the right one. I guess that’s one of the reasons why I’m single. Getting married was never really high on my priority list (obviously, since I’m still not married, and I’m 33). Going to college, receiving a degree, and starting a career were important goals I set for myself. Now that I have earned two degrees and began my career, I am focused on buying my own house. I feel like the relationship and marriage thing will fall into place when the time is right. Society looks at those who are single like there’s something wrong with them. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard, “Why are you single?” or “You’re pretty. How come you don’t have a boyfriend?” It kills me because many of the people who ask those kinds of questions or who are in relationships shouldn’t even be in the relationships they’re in. Besides, what’s wrong with being single?
But anyway, except for the few long term boyfriends I’ve had, the times I start talking to guys and actually like them (which is rare), it just ends. I’m curious what makes certain guys stay with certain girls and what make other guys want to move on so quickly. There are many people who are in relationships and many guys willing to be in relationships, but I always seem to find the ones who don’t want relationships. Maybe I am too picky. Maybe I let the good ones get away. Maybe I give off the vibe that I don’t want a relationship. Oh, and I’ve heard I’m unapproachable. That’s a good one. The guys who are interested in me, I’m not interested in them. I mean it’s not hard to find a boyfriend; it’s just hard to find a good one. Also, I think many guys are mostly looking to just get laid. If a girl gives it up the first night, the guy usually doesn’t call since he already got what he wanted. But if a girl doesn’t give up enough, the guy doesn’t call anyway because why does he want to bother with a girl who won’t have sex with him. And guys say we’re hard to understand.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my life, and I enjoy being single (most of the time). I just want to know what the deal is!! So – all you men out there – what turns you off?
Nina
January 7th, 2010 at 00:17
Well, Melissa, this is a sentiment I hear from both genders. I am allot older than you so my perspective is different but I feel that the dance of dating is much different now. I am divorced and have three adult children, so I observe what my children say about dating and relationships and I used to date allot.
Here is a common theme that men complain about:
-”I know she PROBABLY wants kids and a husband and I am just not ready for that yet. My career is not established.”
-”She parties way too much. The sex is really easy.”
-”She is a drama queen. I can tell she shares everything with her girlfriends.”
-”She is really successful and I don’t have my shit together yet.”
-”She is gorgeous but dead in bed.”
I have a Reiki and healing practice. You may find that your answers will come immediately once you are open and balanced. If you want a session, Tony can give you my phone number.
All the best to you,
Nina
handsom-ed
January 7th, 2010 at 02:45
elissa, tony knows me pretty well, you know I’m a little mad with tony, not letting me know about you! Anyhow, what turns me off? Most likley, the same as you, no follow through. I enjoyed reading your post, for me, a window, into a whole nuther world. HANDSOM-ED
Melissa
April 16th, 2010 at 05:58
Thanks Handsome Ed!
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