Posted on February 4, 2015 by Jinxiang Wu
It all started when Connie was in high school. She had this big crush on a guy who she never talked to. One day she was on Facebook lurking at random people, and she saw this picture of a guy who looked exactly like the guy she had the crush on, so she decided to friend request the random guy, a fellow by the name of Matt, from the USA.
Matt seemed nice, funny, had enormous charm and a great sense of humor. Connie started to have feelings for him. They entered a long distance relationship utilizing every tool and technology possible. Four months went by, and so she asked her dad if he could send her to the United States to study English. Her dad said, “Hey that’s a good idea.” She was so exited she told Matt right away. He was so happy, they started planning all the stuff they would do once they were to meet for the first time.
Time passed so fast. They started to have so many problems. She was so mad because he never called, not even once. Connie called him two times. The conversations were the same. He stopped sending her messages on Facebook. They only talked on MSN. He used to say he was busy and all. She felt so much pressure because two months ago she talked to her parents about him and they agreed for her to go to the U.S. to meet him. So one night she came home very sad and frustrated because she thought about him all day long and he wasn’t showing any real interest in the relationship. She communicated to him on MSN again and said, “This is over, I don’t want this anymore…it’s not the same I don’t know what to do this anymore” and he only replied with, “okay”~
Another week passed and while she was logged in to her Facebook account she saw, “Matt is now in a relationship” in his status. Her first reaction was speechlessness, then her breathing started to raise, and the next minute tears were running down her face. She asked him why and he said, “It just happened”…
She got depressed. Didn’t want to go out with friends and she stopped talking to her parents because she was ashamed. Connie chose to keep her words to herself. She chose to never talk about him again because everyone knew what he did, and she used to hear the same words from her friends every time she talked about him, that it wouldn’t have worked out anyway as it was a long distance relationship. The friends said: ” Get over it!” “He’s a jerk move on!” Now she is faking a smile everyday. It will take a long time for her to get over it.
Photography and Text by Jinxiang Wu
About the Author: Jinxiang Wu is a graduate student at the University of Pennsylvania.